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Parenting | 3 year AGO
You may feel least prepared to raise kids, but it is one of the toughest and most rewarding jobs you will ever do.
Listed below are nine tips for raising a child that will also help you feel more fulfilled as a parent.
When children see themselves through their parents' eyes, they start developing a sense of self. Every sound you make, every body language you exhibit, and every expression you give is absorbed by your kids. In more ways than one, the words and actions you say and do as a parent influence your child's self-esteem.
By praising accomplishments, no matter how little, you will make them feel proud; by letting them do things for themselves, they will become more capable and stronger. Conversely, reducing a child's worth or comparing him or her unfavorably with another will cause them to feel useless.
Use your words sparingly and refrain from making loaded statements. Just as physical blows do, comments like "That is dumb!" or "You act like a baby!" damage relationships with children.
Be compassionate and carefully choose your words. Even when you do not like how your kid behaves, let them know that everyone makes mistakes, and you still love them.
When you think of how many times you react negatively to your children each day, have you ever thought about how many times you do it? It might surprise you how often you criticize rather than compliment your children. Despite the best intentions of your boss, what would you think if he or she gave you so much negative feedback?
As an alternative, you can catch kids doing something right, such as: "You made your bed without being asked and that was wonderful!" or "I observed your patience while playing with your sister." These statements work better than repeated scolding over the long run.
You should always find something to praise each day. It's important to be generous with rewards - hugs, kisses, and compliments often work miracles and are completely enough. As soon as you begin to "grow" more of the behavior you desire, you will notice how much better you feel.
There must be discipline in every household. The goal of discipline is to teach kids that appropriate behavior is acceptable and that self-control is necessary. Your limits may be tested, but if you want them to become responsible adults, you have to set them.
By establishing house rules, you teach your children what to expect from you and help them develop self-control. You might let students watch Television only after homework is completed and stop hitting, naming, or making hurtful comments.
Consider implementing a warning system followed by consequences, such as a "time out" or loss of access. Parents who fail to enact the consequences often find themselves in trouble. The discipline of children for talking back cannot be done one day and then ignored the next. If you are consistent, the children will learn what is expected.
Even when a family gets together for a meal, it is often difficult for kids to spend quality time with their parents. Still, kids want nothing more than to spend time with their parents. After dinner, leave the dishes in the sink and take a walk after dinner. Start your day 10 minutes earlier so you can share breakfast with your child. If their parents do not pay them enough attention, kids act out or misbehave because they know they will be noticed.
Scheduled time together with your kids can be a rewarding experience for many parents. Each week, take your kids out for a "special night" and let them decide how it will be spent. Incorporate other ways to connect - leave a note in your kid's lunchbox or include something special in the lunchbox.
The attention they need from their parents seems to differ between teens and children younger than them. Due to the limited time for parents and teens to get together, parents should strive to be available when their teen expresses interest in talking or participating in family activities. Your participation in concerts, sports, and other events with your teen communicates your care for them and allows you to become more acquainted with the rest of their friends.
You do not have to feel guilty about working as a parent. Make popcorn, play cards, go window shopping, and all the little things you do will be remembered by your kids.
Watching their parents teaches young children a lot about how to behave. Children take cues from their parents more often if they are still young. Before you lash out at your child or blow your top in front of them, ask yourself: Is that what you want your child to do in moments of anger? Keep in mind that your children are constantly watching you. There is research that indicates that children who are hit tend to have an aggressive parent at home.
As a parent, you should use the following traits to raise your children: respect, friendliness, honesty, kindness, and tolerance. Don't be selfish to your children. Help those around you without expecting any compensation. Thanks and compliments are always appreciated. Do not forget to treat your children the same way you want to be treated.
A parent cannot expect their children to do everything simply because they are told to. Children, like adults, want to be informed of why they are doing something. Unless we explain our values and motives, kids will begin to wonder whether our actions are justified. Children can learn and understand in a nonjudgmental manner when their parents reason with them.
Make sure you are clear about your expectations. Describe the problem to your child, express your feelings, and invite him or her to come up with a solution together. Ensure that the consequences are discussed as well. Encourage your child to make choices. Take your child's suggestions into account too. You can negotiate. A child who participates in the decision-making process is more likely to honor it.
It may be that you have unrealistic expectations if you often feel let down by the behavior of your child. You will probably find it helpful to read about the matter or speak to other parents or child development experts if you live by "shoulds" (for example, "I should have potty-trained my kid by now").
The environment of kids can influence their behavior, so it may be possible to change the environment to change their behavior. You might want to consider changing your environment to make fewer things off-limits for your 2-year-old if you find yourself repeatedly saying "no.". This will reduce both of your frustration levels.--
In order to change your parenting style, you will gradually have to adapt to your child's changing needs. If what works with your child now does not work well in a year or two, there is a good chance it will not work at all.
Rather than looking to their parents for role models, teens tend to look to their peers. Nevertheless, you should continue to guide, encourage, and discipline your teen as they gain more independence. Make sure you spend time together whenever possible.
In addition to correcting and guiding your kids, you are also responsible for correcting your own behavior. It is your approach to corrective guidance that will determine how a child receives it.
It is best to avoid blaming, criticizing, and finding faults with your child, as such behaviors lead to self-defeating behaviors and can lead to resentment. Encourage your children even when disciplining them, rather than punishing them. Whatever happens, let them know you love them despite your expectations for a better next time.
You are an imperfect parent, no matter how hard you try. Family leaders are all different, so each has its own strengths and weaknesses. Be mindful of your strengths - "I am loyal and loving." Commit to working on your weaknesses - "I need to be more disciplined." Keep realistic expectations for yourself, your spouse, and your kids. Be forgiving of yourself because you do not have to have all the answers.
Parenting can be manageable if you put some effort into it. Don't try to resolve everything at once, but rather focus on the areas that require immediate attention. Be honest with yourself when you are burned out. It is critical to take time for yourself (or together as a couple) to do things that will make you happy.
Selfishness does not result from focusing on your own needs. It simply means that you care about your own well-being, which is yet another value that parents should instill in their children.
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